Responding to Peer Pressure

I’ll have you know, I don’t respond well to peer pressure.
That’s the truth.

So when RisefromAshes tried to pressure me into responding to the Peer Pressure Tag, I almost didn’t do it. But here we are, because of course, I only jest. I definitely wanted to do this of my own volition.

And of course, thanks for the tag!

haruhi dream flashback

Get a load of these rules, trying to pressure me into doing things:

Rules

  • Link back to the creator, which is Random Thoughts of My Fandoms.
  • Provide a link to the person who tagged you.
  • Answer all questions honestly
  • Come up with 5 questions of your own. (4 have to be about peer pressure; 1 can be random and about whatever)
  • Tag at least 10 people and provide links to their blogs. Please no “you!”
  • Recommend at least 5 books or songs you see everywhere/are very popular that you’ve read or listened to.
  • Use the hashtag #peer pressure tag for easier visibility

I’ll consider some of them, but I don’t respond well to peer pressure.
You can’t make me follow the rules!

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First are the initial questions.

1. Have you ever done anything because you were scared you’d be missing out?

This one doesn’t feel like peer pressure to me, but just life. At the moment I have the choice of moving somewhere else in Japan or staying where I am, and it’s something I’ve been a bit torn on. Moving is a hassle, I have friends here, I like my schools… but I also could experience living in another part of Japan which could be rewarding and a great experience in it’s own way. So in a way, that’s a form of being scared of missing out.

And in that sort of definition, I guess I have. But I wouldn’t call it “fear of missing out”. I would say it’s more that I tell myself that I would regret it later if I didn’t give it a try now. Which is what I’ve been trying to do more since I got here – go out and do more things instead of just working / staying home all the time.

2. Do you often do things just because your friends or someone close to you is doing it? 

Nope. If I’ve done anything, it’s because I also wanted to do it. I think the last time I did something because I didn’t want to was when I was in high school I went on a roller coaster I didn’t want to go on. I was at an amusement park with 5 friends and they were all going on, and it was a long line because the roller coaster was brand new. I didn’t want to sit around and wait for them, so I went with them. I was worried my glasses would fall off when I was actually on the roller coaster, but thankfully they stayed on.

3. Have you ever felt uneasy about giving your opinion simply because it would be unpopular?

I wouldn’t say I feel uneasy about giving my opinion because it’s unpopular per se, unless you by “unpopular” you mean it would get me attacked online or something like that. I guess you could say I’d feel uneasy about giving my opinions in that sense. But if I was to give my opinion, I’d wouldn’t back down from pressure, it would take proper arguments and such to change my mind.

Most of the time, it’s just not worth sharing or engaging in / with something that will lead to online arguments though.

4. Do you ever find yourself running away from popular things because you don’t want to be labelled as “basic?”

I’ve never thought about being labelled “basic” before in my life.

5. (Random question) What’s your dream job?

Some sort of online business for myself, doesn’t matter what, but if I can do it remotely, that’d be great.

Ep17 Haruhi Point

Next we have RisefromAshes’ questions.

1. What’s the best result you’ve had from doing something because peer pressure? (I.E. made new friends, discovered a new TV show, etc)

I really can’t think of any textbook cases of “peer pressure” per se in my life, of course I always think of that caricature where a bunch of kids are pressuring their friend into trying drugs or whatever…

I guess it’s kind of a form of pressure, but in high school I was asked to the school dance by a girl and felt like I should accept to be nice. Not really textbook peer pressure, I could have said no. Anyways it was a fun night in the end, although it ended up leading into some misunderstandings and a love triangle of sorts forming as both that girl and her best friend liked me.

2. What’s the worst result you’ve had from doing something because of peer pressure? (If it’s really bad, skip this.)

May as well follow up the last point, can’t think of any other good stories anyways.

I wasn’t very astute when it came to women in high school. So after going to the dance with one girl, her best friend ended up confessing to me and putting on the spot a little while later. I sort of felt pressured to start daring this girl, being put on the spot as I was, so I did. The relationship didn’t last very long, maybe three months, and both the girls ended up hating each other after all was said and done.

Again, not really peer pressure, but it was a pressure of sorts for me at the time anyways. And while at the time I hadn’t really thought about what I’d done, going to a dance with one girl and then dating her best friend, later on I’ve looked back on that year and realized that I indirectly ruined their friendship, or at least I was the wedge that drove the two apart. I kind of feel bad for that now, but I was naive back then. And to be fair, I guess they were too.

3. During your time online, blogging or not, what’s the best case of peer pressure going well that you’ve seen/experienced?

Best case? Best as in a good result, or best as in the most textbook?

I don’t know, I mean there are people being pressured to commit suicide and things like this on the Internet, which is pretty awful. So that’s probably the most textbook kind. Even just online bullying, while I haven’t witnessed it myself, I know that a lot of people can be pressured into doing / saying stupid things via the Internet. And some people do it to themselves, for attention.

As for a good case, I have no clue. There are probably some stories on Reddit or wherever where someone was pressured into leaving an abusive relationship or something, so I guess that would be a good case.

4. If you have a funny story involving peer pressure, can you share it here? (If not, give advice on dealing with peer pressure)

I can’t think of a funny story, although I’m sure I responded to a dare or two in high school to say or do certain things in class. I was a bit of a clown in class. But I can’t think of anything right now.

5. (Random question) What is a video that lives in your head rent free? Link it in this post.

Rent free?!

Well, there’s no video for that. The only thing that lives rent free in my head is music.

Finally, I don’t have to, but I wanted to also answer the set of questions that were asked by Annie, just for the hell of it.

1. What kind of blogging pressures have you come across?

For this one I can say that I have felt no pressures from others, the pressures are all just self-imposed. While I’m not very strict with myself and posting, and am fine to skip a week here and there, I do like to at least put out one post per week if possible.

Other than that, I can’t think of any pressures.

2. How do you deal with peer pressure?

I don’t respond to peer pressure. I’m a very stubborn individual and don’t cave to things like peer pressure. If I do, it’s because I wanted to, not because of the pressure.

3. When has peer pressure ever had a positive effect on you?

Well, this is pressure from one of my peers, so technically it counts. One of my friends here in Nagano is also an English teacher, and he has been working in Japan for many years. He stressed to me fairly early on to not feel bad about taking my vacation, and he often encourages me to use up all of my vacation, to not donate my paid leave to the company I work for.

And I’ve gone and made sure that I’ve done just that, using up my paid leave days (they don’t carry over to next year). I’ve also been pressuring some other friends I’ve made to do the same, and use their paid leave, and not feel bad about it!

4. What advice would you give to others dealing with peer pressure?

If it’s something you know you don’t want to do, take a hard stance and make it known. I’m straight edge, I don’t drink alcohol, smoke, or do any drugs. I even avoid caffeine. I don’t beat around the bush if someone asks or tries to get me to drink with them, I tell them I don’t drink at all. If someone gets really pushy and buys me a drink, I won’t touch it and will just let it sit on the table / counter in front of me, untouched.

Sometimes you just have to be as stubborn as a mule. But you have to know where you draw the line and understand yourself beforehand, so that you can have those firm boundaries and that conviction.

5. (Random question) What fictional world or what kind of fictional world would you like to live in?

On a practical level, I wouldn’t want to live in any fictional world.

If I had to choose one though, I would choose the fantasy world from Dog Days, because it’s a very happy go lucky world and looks like a lot of fun. And it looks like the least dangerous fantasy world as well.

Next up are my 5 questions for you to answer.

  • Has an animal ever pressured you into doing something (good or bad)?
  • Have you ever pressured someone into watching a certain anime?
  • Have you ever been pressured into watching a certain anime?
  • Have you ever pressured an animal into watching a certain anime?
  • (Random question) Do you like cats?

Next I have to tag 10 people.

  1. You!
  2. Rori / the Galvanic Team
  3. KiritoNarukami
  4. Emiko
  5. Celestial Sparkles
  6. Raven
  7. EggheadLuna
  8. Chris Joynson
  9. parzival
  10. Johnathan
  11. Alo Lantin
  12. Lynn Sheridan (AKA The Otaku Author)
haruhi threat point

Next I have to share 5 pieces of media I’ve been into lately. Well, Moya would likely call this “Yomu music” but I’ve been hooked on Hatsuki Yuri lately, thanks to these three “best of” videos I stumbled upon on YouTube: one, two, three.

I’ll share a few of the songs from these, to give you a taste of Yura’s kind of music.

I’m sure that all of these links will disappear at some point, so if you’re reading this from the future, I apologize.

As for non-Japanese music, here are a couple good ones:


To the one person that actually listened to any of those YouTube embeds, thanks.

To everyone else: it’s alright, I don’t usually listen to other people’s music either.

I’m pretty sure that’s a wrap for this one.
Is there anything else required of me?

Until next time,
Thanks for reading.

13 thoughts on “Responding to Peer Pressure

  1. This is the second post I’ve seen involving that tag. Thanks for sharing your stories and experiences on the matter. Like you, I was never called basic even when people bullied me for the things I liked. Sure, part of that stems from me wanting to get validation or to not look like uncultured swine, but at least I avoided that label.

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  2. RisefromAshes

    “Best case? Best as in a good result, or best as in the most textbook?” – Not gonna lie, you got me there with that one.

    But thank you for taking the time to answer! I really enjoyed reading all your answers and seeing your thoughts!

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  3. I took ages to figure out exactly how to respond to Phoenix’s (RiseFromAshes) questions that I ended up skipping all the other questions, even though “all questions should be answered honestly”…oops.

    Personally I like Metamorphosis, that you recommended in one of your Akatsuki Records posts, rather than the Yura Hazuki stuff (although I did find some cool stuff from her on Spotify).

    A lot of music videos live in my head rent free and while I was thinking of what video to put down for the final question, I was reminded of some of them – Tear It Down (by the Aston Shuffle) with the disco ball girl, Paradise (by Coldplay) with the elephant in the suitcase escaping, the Zastenker remix of Parachute (by Otto Knows) with the girl who floats away and Silhouettes (by Avicii), which focuses on gender reassignment surgery. I almost put Tear It Down instead since that was what came to mind first, but didn’t want to scar anyone for life with it, hence my more meme-y choice that eventually made the post. (…That sounds odd out of context, but it makes more sense if you watch the music video…let’s hope it embeds below…)

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    1. I’ve got some more Akatsuki to catch up on, a couple good ones have been released on their YT since I last posted.

      Looked at that video and it’s definitely memorable. I’ve never really been one to watch music videos, even back in the Much Music days, although I do remember a few from some bands I liked at the time like Good Charlotte or Sum41 haha.

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      1. (Ah, minor correction: That’s the original version of Parachute that has the music video in question, not the remix. Sorry about that.)

        I haven’t looked at the Akatsuki Records YouTube in a while because I only fell for the one song and couldn’t find them on Spotify (apparently the songs were there at one point, but they’re gone now).

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